Thursday, May 17, 2007

I've been 'Pro-Lifed??'

Can that be made into a verb? If it can that would explain the strange things that have been going on in the comments section for a post that I made about abortion in New Brunswick over a month ago! Somehow it has been spotlighted as a place for pro-lifers to come and post about abortion. All the posts detail women's experiences with abortion and how much they regret having them.

I want to start this post then by saying how much I respect their experience and their drive to speak out about it. As a pro-choicer myself I don't kid myself into believing that everyone who has an abortion has a wonderful experience and never regrets their decision. Some of these women talk about being pressured into having an abortion and I feel truly sorry for them. But I think that the other side of the coin is just as true: not everyone who has an abortion has a terrible experience and regrets their decision. For some women having an abortion is the most wonderful thing that they have done!

Regardless of my own personal pro-choice beliefs though, I still believe strongly that there are some areas where pro-choice and pro-life people can potentially work together. Ensuring teenagers are given proper sex education and access to contraceptives is one thing that would help greatly reduce the number of abortions. Also, providing women, especially young women who are pregnant and want to keep their children, with the resources to enable them to support their children and to fulfill their own dreams. My main problem with some pro-lifers is then that as much as they seem to want to stop abortions, they also seem to want to punish women for having sex. Some pro-lifers are thus against comprehensive sex education and support for women who have children. I actually had one woman say to me that having a child at a young age that ruins your future dreams was something young women deserved if they had sex. I just think that's a really perverse attitude to the whole issue - and not a very Christian one!

2 comments:

Maayan said...

Interestingly, all the stories are from 2001 - thought the first one says "it's been four months now". It seems that the stories were written a good while back anyway. These women's experiences are certainly tragic, and I feel for them. But the right to choose isn't about making women have abortions every other day, or take the decision lightly. Sometimes people will make a decision taht turns out to be wrong for them or painful - but that's still better than having no power at all.

Woman at Mile 0 said...

I agree. They hate abortion yet most are also against honest, straight forward sex education. So essentially their position is ...no to abortions but let's not tell teens about sex or ensure they have unlimited access to their choice of birth control methods. That way when a young person who is not ready, does get pregnant, they can say "tough beans your doomed to a life of low economic status and no one's gonna help you...and by the way it's not our fault either". This is the main problem with many christian beliefs about sex ed and abortion. I left the southern baptist church a long long time ago because I decided I was pro choice. I was only 12 years old when I figured out my own position on this issue.